Underneath procrastination is a fear of failure. When we clean the kitchen instead of completing a work document or a college assignment, it leads to berating ourselves with negative self-talk, looping, and allowing other things to get in the way, therefore avoiding unpacking the real cause of the procrastination.
As a young child when we didn’t learn how to cope with making mistakes in life, we can make up a story about ourselves that we are a failure. Our child self finds a way to shut down from our traumatized self and develops the words to justify our failure – and the story repeats itself throughout our lifetime. We cope by compartmentalizing our fear of failure to the point that it becomes hard to face.
In this video, you’ll hear examples of how a sense of failure gets ingrained in us as a young child, causing physical and emotional dysregulation that keeps repeating. You’ll discover why procrastination is a symptom of trauma, and Clare will show you how to begin to notice the underlying cause of procrastination and find resources inside that support you.